Self-Pity – The ‘Luxury’ You Can’t Afford

Tragedy and misfortune strike people every day. We open the newspaper and read about terrible things that happen to others. We ourselves are not immune to having bad things happen in our lives. As bad as these things are, there is something even worse than the tragedy itself. It is self-pity.

You can see how this can happen. People get immersed in a horrible experience and their energy is sapped and their defenses are down and it becomes easy to fall into the trap of self-pity. They begin to dwell on their hurts and hardships, whether real or imagined, and begin to enjoy talking about them and sharing them with others.

Self-Pity a Luxury?

Why do I call it a luxury? The dictionary tells us that a luxury is something we indulge in, is something we enjoy, is costly and is not necessary. Self-pity fits that description perfectly.

Wallowing in self-pity, like all habits, is hard to overcome once we become accustomed to it. We become comfortable with it and find that it’s hard to do without. We look for others to commiserate and sympathize with. But self-pity is unproductive. It causes us to be bitter and unforgiving and resentful. Self-pity doesn’t bring people together – it divides them. When you throw a pity party, you are the only invited guest.

Self-Pity and Self-Image

Self-pity allows us to feel that we are victims. It’s how we begin to define ourselves. It creates a distorted feeling of security. It gives us an excuse for not trying. It creates in us a “What’s-the-use attitude.” It’s been said that the nice thing about self-pity is that if you can’t get others to feel sorry for you, you can still feel sorry for yourself.

Self-Pity and Self-Destruction

I’ve known people who have been in horrible marriages. Maybe their spouse had a problem with drugs or gambling or is an alcoholic. They have experienced untold suffering. We know they have because of their constant complaining to others. They are continually looking for a shoulder to cry on. Their life seems to always be full of drama.

Strange as it may seem, when that person finally ends the relationship they are unhappy. They have nothing to complain about anymore. No one feels sorry for them anymore. They don’t get the attention they once had. They no longer have a crutch to lean on and are expected to live a normal life just like everybody else. This is a real blow.

Invariably the injured person goes out and marries someone as bad or worse than their first spouse. They find another drug-addict, wife-beater, alcoholic or gambler to marry so they can indulge in self-pity again.

It’s natural for us at times to feel sorry for ourselves. We’ve all done it before and in reality it can help ease the pain of our trials. But when it turns into who we are and we continue to dwell on it and convince ourselves that we are victims and are in the hands of some uncontrollable fate, then it becomes detrimental to our well being.

If we permit ourselves to dwell upon our past hurts and injuries we are more likely to use them to justify our yielding to other destructive habits such as over-eating or drinking. We seem to think, “You would do the same if it happened to you.”

Self-Pity is for Losers

This may sound harsh but there are some who are losers because they want to be losers. They may not even be aware of it yet it is true. If things start to go well for them they get worried and concerned. They feel it can’t last. They then begin to self-sabotage their success. Why? Because they have become so used to feeling a certain way that the new feelings are uncomfortable to them. Since they have concluded that a loser is who they are then success is out of harmony with their self-image. They can’t stand that feeling.

It reminds me of a time when I needed to stop over at my church to pick up some papers. I was in my grubby work-in-the-yard clothes. I just needed to run in, grab what I needed, and leave. As I entered the church I realized there was another event taking place and everyone there was dressed in their Sunday best. I felt so out of place. I felt so uncomfortable. I wanted to get out of there as soon as I could and get back into the dirty and grimy environment of my yard work. I think that is why some people feel so uncomfortable when things start to go good in their lives. It is not compatible with the concept they have of themselves.

Overcoming Self-Pity

The solution is to realize that your unhappiness is caused by your self-centeredness. When you are continually focused on yourself it comes at the price of excluding all others. This self-absorption is like a fence around you that keeps out those who could lend you a hand. You have to take the focus off yourself and begin to see that there are those around you who also have trials and struggles in their lives and you can be someone they can lean on. And as you open up and reach out to help others, they in turn can help you.

Another way out of self-pity is through forgiveness – meaning your forgiveness of others. As you begin to forgive others of the perceived hurts and wrongs they have committed towards you, you can begin to heal and let go of the pain and self-pity. Is this easy? Not by a long shot. Is it necessary? Absolutely.

Helen Keller said,

Self-pity is our worst enemy and if we yield to it, we can never do anything good in the world.

Let us rise above self-pity and use our efforts and energies for more fulfilling and positive endeavors.

Thank you.

WoW First Aid Guide

Being able to heal yourself is one very desirable skill in Warcraft and therefore one of the best secondary professions to have is First Aid. The following WoW First Aid guide will share some tips and advice on this profession.

First Aid is fantastic for any class, even healers, because of its potential to reduce your down time. This profession will also make you a great ally in any group because you’ll be able to heal others. First Aid utilizes various bandages as a tool in healing. These bandages are made from a variety of cloths that you get as you level up. The higher level cloths will have better healing power. This WoW first aid guide won’t go into actually making and using the bandages. The list that follows is of the various cloths, their skill level and healing power. As you’ll see heavy bandages heal better.

o Linen: Starting skill level, with a 66 Healing power and (114 healing power for Heavy, meaning heavy bandages) over 6 sec

o Wool: Find a trainer once you’re at level 115, Healing power is 161 (301 for Heavy) over 7 seconds.

o Silk: Find a trainer at skill level 150, Healing power is 400 (640 Heavy) over 8 seconds.

o Mageweave: Find a trainer at skill 210, Healing power is 800 (1104 Heavy) over 8 seconds.

o Runecloth: Find a trainer at skill 260, Healing power is 1360 (2000 Heavy) over 8 seconds.

o Netherweave: For this cloth you’ll need to learn it from a book at skill 330, Healing power is 2800 (3400 Heavy) over 8 seconds.

o Frostweave: You’ll need to train with a Grand Master Trainer at skill level 350, healing power is 4800 (5800 Heavy) over 8 seconds.

Heavy bandages, as I mentioned earlier, have better healing power and require you to use 2 pieces of cloth as opposed to 1, which makes a regular bandage. As far as the books I mentioned for learning how to make Netherweave and other cloths, they can be found either in the wild or bought. I’ll talk a little now in the WoW first aid guide about leveling your first aid skill. One book you’ll need for leveling through skill levels 125-225 is the “Under Wraps” book. It’ll cost you 1 gold and can be found in Stromgarde Ruins for Alliance characters and bought from Deneb Walker. Or, for Horde, it can be bought from Balai Lok’Wein in Brakenwall Village, Dustwallow Marsh.

Leveling through levels 225-300 will require a special quest. For this quest your character level needs to be 35 and your skill needs to be at level 225. For the quest, Alliance faction should seek out Doctor Gustaf Van Howzen in Theramore Isle. Horde should seek out Doctor Gregory Victor in Hammerfall which is in the Arathi Highlands.

To become a Master in First Aid, skill 300-375, you’ll need another book. Alliance can find it at the Temple of Telhamat, and Horde can find it at Falcon Watch. The Netherweave book I mentioned earlier can also be found here.

As a conclusion to the WoW first aid guide I’d like to mention some quick things about healing. You can only heal while standing still and not sustaining any damage. If you end up taking some damage or moving while healing then you keep the healing you’ve gotten but any further healing stops. Lastly, you can’t cause damage to others while you’re healing. To get around this limitation one tip is to stun your enemies momentarily to give you time to heal. This is best done by using Heavy bandages.

How Can Lottery Long-Shots Improve Your Chances?

Around the world, serious lottery players are searching for lottery number patterns that will provide them an advantage. There is one such lottery strategy that is proven to provide them an edge. It utilizes lottery number patterns that exist in all lotteries. They are called Longshots.

If you don’t know what Longshots are, we’ll start with some history and a definition. A few years back there was a lottery strategy that became rather popular that, for lack of a better name, we’ll call the Hot Number Strategy. Along with it came the typical marketing hype that you would expect. The pitch went something like this:

Since more than 80% of all winning lottery numbers Hit within the last 10 drawings, create your play list from the winners in the last 10 drawings. This will increase your chances of winning the lottery.

At first, it sounds plausible enough. But, let’s think about this. Implicit in this strategy is the opposite side of the coin. Any lottery numbers that haven’t Hit in the last 10 drawings are considered a rather dubious pick. Hence, these lottery numbers were named Longshots. The name persists to this day and I even use it. But, I do not malign the use of Longshots. In fact, I applaud them. Including Longshots in a play list is an absolute necessity for any viable lottery strategy.

For all of those lottery players who got caught up in the Hot Number Strategy hype, this was, no doubt, a very expensive lesson. A lot of money was spent with little to show for it.

Excluding Longshots resulted in a Hot Number Strategy disaster. You see, including Longshots is essential to any viable lottery strategy because, on the average, 25% to 40% of the winning numbers are Longshots! You heard me right; 25% to 40%.

This has been true for every lottery in the US and Canada for over 20 years. That’s when I started analyzing them. The percentage varies from lottery to lottery as the size of the lotteries change. For example, the percentage is higher for a 6/52 lottery than it is for a 6/44 lottery. But, you can rest assured that this lottery number pattern is as solid as a rock.

It is simple for anyone to verify this. Well, maybe without an excellent lottery software program, not so simple. But, either way, this is the approach. List all of the lottery numbers that have Hit in the last 10 drawings for each lottery drawing. Any lottery number not in the list must be a Longshot. Count the number of winning numbers in the next drawing that were Longshots. Do this for the entire lottery history. If you average the number of Longshots that were winners, you will find the answer lies somewhere between 25 and 40 percent.

How can you take advantage of this information? Assuming that the answer you got was 30%, then, on the average, 30% of the winning numbers in the next drawing would be Longshots. If you were playing a 6/48 lottery, this means that you should expect 1.8 winning numbers to be Longshots. (30% x 6 = 1.8) Of course, this doesn’t happen every drawing but it is unwaveringly persistent over time. For example, in Lotto Texas, at least 1 of the winning numbers is a Longshot 89% of the time! In other words, you can count on it.

This shows why the Hot Number Strategy practitioners wasted so much money. On the average, their play lists were coming up 1.8 numbers short. This must have been (and still is) very frustrating for the players using this weak lottery strategy.

Some of you are, no doubt, asking how you can take advantage of Longshot when you play. Continuing with the example above, it is very simple. Let’s say you decide to pare down a 48 number lottery to a 37 number play list with the help of lottery analysis software. Not a bad strategy since you have eliminated 9,946,728 wagers from play! Since you are expecting 30% of the winning lottery numbers to be Longshots, you make sure that 11 of those 37 lottery numbers in your play list are Longshots. (30%x37=11.1)

It is hard to imagine any lottery strategy that doesn’t include Longshots. Serious lottery players everywhere use it. This is called playing the odds. In fact, that’s what all successful gamblers do; play the odds.

5 Tips How To Win The Lottery

We have 5 tips on how to win the lottery. We know you’ll be interested – everybody dreams of winning the lottery one day. The lottery brings out some kind of instinct in people; it allows ordinary people to become rich simply over-night. This kind of thing doesn’t happen often, but the lottery is one thing that makes these kinds of special events possible.

Good, helpful tips on how to win the lottery are always hard to find, especially for free. This is because most people simply want to cash in on their secrets, although to be honest I don’t quite understand how people can pay for lottery winning tips. Surely if someone knows the secret to winning the lottery, they aren’t going to give away their secret for a few dollars? We know we would much rather win the lottery using our own knowledge than share the secrets.

Here are some of the best tips for people actually interested in winning the lottery. These pieces of advice work because they have intelligent reasoning (as often people’s thoughts and judgement gets clouded when the excitement of the lottery hits them), and because they have facts to back them up

  • Don’t go looking for lottery ‘tip’ services. The lottery is a draw of randomly generated numbers, these numbers are always random so no ‘tip’ service will help you to win the lottery.
  • Don’t pick numbers that have some kind of meaning to you, such as birthday dates. Most lotteries go from numbers 1 – 46, how many uncles do you have that were born on the 46th day of the month? Think logically when choosing your lottery numbers.
  • Don’t pick lottery numbers that have won previously. This is a bad idea, the lottery is random and the same numbers aren’t simply going to come up again and again, as the draws are random.
  • If you want to choose your lottery numbers properly, try and get a program that randomly generates numbers 1 through to 46 (or whatever numbers are in your lottery draw). Or you could simply write all the numbers down on small pieces of paper (of equal sizes) and put them into a hat. By drawing them out at random you are imitating the lottery draw system – that the numbers are drawn at random.
  • Join a lottery syndicate. A syndicate is basically a group of people who club together to purchase lottery tickets, and then share any of their winnings. 1 in 4 lottery wins are won by a syndicate, and you have a far greater chance of winning a life-saving amount of money on the lottery than by simply playing on your own.
  • Be sure to follow all of these notes on how to win the lottery, but also be sure to remember that it is a completely random draw. Try and choose numbers at random, and be sure to join a syndicate if you can find one to join.